When I was driving home from the gym this morning, I was thinking about fear of change.
The fear of the unknown can keep us stuck for weeks, years and even decades.
Many people have commented about my decision to leave my comfortable corporate career last year.
They said things like... "Wow, you're really comfortable with risk." And... "You're not afraid of change, are you?"
Honestly, I've been wondering about these comments ever since. Were they true? Were they not?
Last night, I was reading about the link between natural ability and intentional practice.
Thanks to Jeff Goins' and The Art of War.
Goins suggests that people who are naturally good at things have been practicing for a long time.
I went to sleep wondering what was natural to me that I had practiced.
That's where the gym drive this morning comes in...
I realized that I'm good at doing things I'm afraid of.
And I think it comes from a psychology professor I had in undergrad who was really into anxieties, fears and phobias.
He teaches that:
The only way to "cure" our fears is to face them.
(Otherwise known as systematic desensitization.)
If you're afraid of mice, you start by just visualizing a mouse.
You don't even need a mouse in your house. Just think about it.
Slowly, you would work your way up to holding a mouse in your hand.
I have taken this lesson to heart as I become a real adult. And have been viewing my fears as guidance on the direction to go.
If I don't know how to do something and I'm scared out of my mind, I go try that.
I used to be so afraid of conducting informational interviews.
Terrified that I wouldn't know what to ask.
Petrified that the person I interviewed would know I didn't know what the hell I wanted to do.
That's why I created "How to Conduct Informational Interviews Like a Pro."
It has all the tips and templates that I wish I had when I was trying to figure out my life early in my career.
While I can't say I know what I'm doing now, I'm no longer afraid of informational interviews.
Now, I actually love conducting them because I know what to say.
If you want access, get it here.