Let's be honest... No one tells you that you can make a different choice.
But here's the thing about being an adult (even if you don't really feel like one): You really can choose many things.
If you want to move across the country, you can (even if your parents don't want you to).
If you hate your job, you can figure out something else to do (even if you have no clue and are totally overwhelmed).
So many of us feel obligated to do certain things... get certain degrees, have certain types of jobs.
But the thing about living according to others' expectations is that it doesn't work.
We can't find fulfillment this way because what we think others want for us probably isn't personally fulfilling.
It's not fulling because it's not authentic to ourselves.
So, what can we do?
1. Think about how you want to feel about your life.
Do you want to be happier? Have more freedom?
2. Start noticing when you feel that way.
Whether it's reading in the morning or grocery shopping on a weekday, just start noticing.
If it helps, grab a piece of paper and write them down so you can see the themes that emerge.
3. Consider the smallest things you can do to experience more of it.
We tend to think that only the big actions count. But our lives are really happening in all of the small moments.
If this approach doesn't work, you can always go back to what you were doing.