One of the questions I hear most often is: How do I find the time to figure out what I want?

The simple answer is: you don’t.

If you keep wondering when you will find the time to do this or that, let me be the one to tell you that you’ll probably never find it.


Time comes to those who make it, not those who try to find it. {Jen Sincero}


We each have 24 hours in a day. And that means we each get to decide how to spend those hours.

But so often, we put ourselves on auto-pilot.

We coast along in unfulfilling routines because it’s so easy to just go through the motions without thinking.

Being thoughtful and intentional about how we spend our time can take some effort, and we just don’t have the time or energy in these routines to do it.

However, Annie Dillard captures the issue with this truth bomb:


How we spend our days is, of course, how we spend our lives. {Annie Dillard}


So if—or when—you’re ready to start prioritizing yourself, here’s what I recommend:

Start by noticing how you spend your time.

One of the easiest ways to do this is to track how you spend your time in 15-minute increments for one day.

Try to pick a fairly typical day so you can get a pretty good representation of your life.

And then consider these questions:

  • How did you feel when starting your day? Throughout your morning routine?

  • Who did you spend your time with? Are they the most important people in your life?

  • When did you wish you were doing something different? How would you rather have spent your time?

  • How did you feel when ending your day? Your nighttime routine?

If you find that you don’t enjoy how you’re spending your time and feel totally stuck… keep in mind that you don’t have to have it all figured out right now. 

Awareness of what isn’t working is a crucial first step so you’re already closer to creating change than you may be thinking.

And you might be surprised at how change can happen naturally just from being aware of where you’re dissatisfied.  


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